I know that I have been very silent lately, but I have been busy. I am currently involved in a project with the Department of Labor that required me to relocate from the Pacific Northwest Washington to the Nation's Capital Washington. It was not too much of a stretch since I had lived in DC for many years, but moving and re-settling definitely took some time!
I had the opportunity to do training and counseling for federal employees in Atlanta and was very amused to learn that one of my counseling "clients" turned out to be someone I met close to 20 years ago. Initially when we started talking and he mentioned a few names, I realized that we knew a LOT of people in common. Imagine that!
The reality is that at any time you can run into someone who is an integral part of your network without you realizing it - why am I mentioning this? Think about this...you are knee deep in a job search, you are frustrated, you are angry and one day, you just release that anger on a complete stranger. Fast forward, you manage to land an interview and guess who is the interviewer? That's right, the same person that you verbally attacked - don't laugh, it can happen.
Just recently a woman signed up to get my free report (please note, it does ask you to sign up for a newsletter), however somewhere in the process, she missed the part that I ask for the email addresses before releasing the link to report. So, what does she do? Jump to the wrong conclusion about my intentions and basically berates me for using covert tactics for marketing purposes - whoa, really?
Now imagine if she had handled that situation differently (yes, I gave her the link anyway and prompting removed her from my database) - I may have been able to sympathize with her job search frustration, given her a resume review or even a complimentary coaching session to get her on the right path.
The lesson here is NOT "Don't mess with Abby", but rather, be careful how you walk and talk. You never know what valuable networking and relationship building opportunities you could be destroying.
So if you are hitting your head against a wall and ready to explode, take a deep breath and review these key strategies for executive and professional job search:
What to do with jobsearch frustration?